You are a single, LDS woman. You truly believe in eternal marriage. Most of your friends have been married by now and many have children. You want to have a family too. You’re trying! But whatever you are doing or not doing just doesn’t seem to be working and you’re starting to think that you might have to just learn to be happy being a single woman.
Adding to your frustration, there is so much talk in the church about the importance of marriage, but so few guidelines on how to make it actually happen.
If that describes your struggle, you’re not the only one who feels that way. We’ve created The Companion for you and others like you to openly discuss these issues and gain insight and direction in the realm of relationships. Our goal isn’t just to help you achieve the goal of marriage, but to enable you to create a lasting and fulfilling intimate relationship.
We’re not here to talk about just finding your eternal companion – we’re here to talk what it takes to be one. Other sites on singles and dating by singles will write mostly about “the dating game”. Yeah, we’ll talk about that too, but we’re more interested in real relationships, making those work, and finding lasting happiness. None of that superficial “marriage = happy ending” stuff.
While our desire is for every person to experience the joys of a relationship to its fullest extent, we realize that there are many women out there (both single and married) who have truly done all they can and are not yet able to enjoy the blessings of a celestial and happy marriage due to circumstances truly outside of their power. Our purpose isn’t to judge, point fingers, guilt trip, or to make lonely women feel lonelier. We aren’t any better than you are. We are just here to help you find answers to your questions.
We don’t claim to know it all or have all the answers. Our focus is simply on exploring the extent of the woman’s role and part in this process so that she won’t miss out on the opportunities that are available to her.
If you have any questions, suggestions, or even complaints, we’d love to hear from you through our contact page.
I. Love. Relationships.
I love thinking about them, reading everything I can about them, talking about them, writing about them, being in them, psychoanalyzing them (both mine and yours – whether you want me to or not)… relationships are my life. So much so that I talked my husband into helping me create this site.
I’m no expert — I didn’t even complete my bachelors in Psychology (I used a guy as an excuse to quit school and moved to a foreign country to be with him. Don’t do that!) I don’t know what it’s like to be 30 and single –- I got married just before I turned 26. I don’t know the secrets of having a good marriage– I’ve only been married for less than a year.
I have, however, been in relationships most of my single adult life. I’ve dated members and non-members, done it really wrong, and subsequently learned to do it much better. I’ve been on both ends of many breakups, experienced an extra large serving of rejection and heartbreak, loneliness within and without relationships, as well as the thrill, euphoria and pure joy of sharing emotional intimacy. Relationships are my backyard, and I have learned so much from them.
I am not better than you are simply because I’m happily married to a wonderful husband. I’m still just learning about relationships too. I don’t have all the answers, I can’t even pretend to really know and understand your situation. My only objective is to write about my observations and opinions, to offer you a different perspective, that perhaps you might find those answers for yourself.
My hope is that all this time I spend analyzing and pondering about dating and marriage and the lessons that I am learning from my own can be put to good use and that you will be able to enjoy your relationship to its fullest, just like I am trying to do in mine.
Some people want to call me a relationship guru but I like to think of myself as lucky to learn things we don’t learn anymore. I completed a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from a COAMFTE accredited school in the mid-west. My undergraduate degree is in Child Development and Family Studies. I have also spent many years working in the area of relationship education.
What makes me unique isn’t just that I’m an LDS MFT, but that I’m also in my 30’s and have never married. So I know what it is like to go through many years of dating and heartbreak. I know what it’s like to move from the singles ward to the family ward. I know what it’s like to feel there is no one around to date.
My heart and soul is completely dedicated to working with relationships and I love it. The graduate school I attended encouraged me to bring religion and personal relationship with God into the therapy room. I continue that still and it is the core of how I believe change happens. I have learned some amazing truths about how relationships function and have spent time looking at how the “research” aligns with gospel truths. The Apostles and Prophets tell us about how relationships should function and I try to figure out what that looks like in day to day life. I strive to put those same truths that I learn into my own life and love being able to share what I’ve learned with others. You know how you feel when you have been working with the missionaries and the fire of the truth has you want to share it with everyone? That’s what I feel about relationships. It has changed my life in a real way. It has made my time as a single more bearable and I actually feel like I’m not just surviving but instead I’m thriving.
Disclaimer: None of the information posted or advice given to specific questions on this website should be construed as entering into a therapeutic relationship with this author. The medium of this blog does not allow this author to have all relevant information for your situation and any information should be taken as suggestions for the information as presented.