Seen the show, The Bachelorette?
Well, I haven’t, but a group of LDS single girls in California had, and loved it so much, they made their own version: The Mormon Bachelorette
I have a love-hate relationship with the project (ask me about that some other time) but one of the things that has struck me – and impressed me – while watching all their dating shenanigans is just how many great and highly eligible 30-year-old LDS men out there are still single and available.
Sure there are a fair share of weirdos and train wrecks waiting to happen, but there are also a lot of really *awesome* guys out there who are not just leftovers.
That makes me question the validity of the complaint “Where are all the good men?”
If you agree that there is more than one person out there that is compatible with you, who you could build a happy marriage and family with, and you’ve been actively trying to find them, do you think you can honestly claim that you haven’t encountered a single one of these options yet?
Think about it: if you are putting yourself in situations where you are actively meeting LDS men (whether it is at a church school, from church activities, blind dates or even *gasp* through internet dating sites etc.), and you do it for about say 7 years, how astronomical do you think the odds are that you haven’t met a single guy that is good enough yet?
No. “I haven’t met him yet” isn’t a valid excuse. What you mean is:
- I haven’t been trying to meet him yet.
- I haven’t met him when I was ready yet.
- I haven’t gotten to know him yet.
- He hasn’t gotten to know me yet.
- I just haven’t recognized him yet.